Nana Tesch

Happy Mother’s Day to all of the wonderful mother’s out there!!

I feel so blessed to be a mother of 2 and the grandmother of 2 beautiful little girls. There are no words to explain what a wonderful feeling that is to me.

I don’t have many good things to say about the egg donor, but today I am going to actually to thank her for being the donor to such a beautiful little girl. The only good thing that she is done is be a donor to our little princess. As hard as it is for me to say, I have to thank her for that.

3 years ago a judge granted my husband and I permanent legal guardianship of our little angel. This “anniversary” is always near Mother’s Day, which makes it extra special to me. These past years have been such a blessing to my husband and myself. She brings so much joy to our hearts.

Please enjoy your Mother’s Day and take the time to enjoy your children/grandchildren!!

Next Post: Coming Soon!!

~NANA~

Well, after much discussion with our princess, discussion with our child psychologist,
and several emails back and forth- she told me she would be coming to actually visit
our princess after 14 months.

My husband and I were actually taking bets if she would actually show up, since so many
times in the past she was going to show and never did.

She actually showed up! (we both lost the bet…. we both took- no show) I was in shock.
I took our princess to the door with me, opened it and there she was. The donor said hello.
Our princess hadn’t a clue who it was, even though we discussed her possibly coming over.

She came in and sat on the couch. Me and the princess sat on the other couch.
Her head nestled on my shoulder. She wouldn’t even look at the donor or say a word to her.
I told her who it was, she still wouldn’t look at her or say anything to her. It was about 45
minutes before she would even come close to talking to the donor.

She made several comments about all the “new” stuff in our house or we got. We put in a new
living room floor and decluttered it, it looks very different from when she saw it last.

She also commented on my husband’s new truck. Which we did have for a year already,
but she wouldn’t know that because she hadn’t been here in over a year. I was told she
made comments numerous times about how we only have our princess for the money. SERIOUSLY?
The money she gets from the county goes directly into her college fund, we do not use that to make purchases for ourselves or for her as far as that goes. We strictly raise her with our own money and
much love!! And trust me, I spend more on our princess than she get’s from the county…..
just ask my husband.

I told her all the cool stuff our princess knows and how smart she is. The donor didn’t have much
interest in that at all. If I said she can spell her first name, she would ask why not her last
name, if I said she can count to 50, she would say, why not 60. Not sure why she reacted
that way, jealous I think.

She asked if our princess was going to start school in the fall, I told her no, she was too young
because she had the late birthday. She had no clue.

She was showing our princess her cell phone, looked like she was showing her some pictures,
which was no big deal, but then when I wasn’t looking, she tried to show her a picture of her
other child and said “shhh, don’t tell mama”. So of course I called her to the carpet. I asked
her what she was doing, she said, just showing her some pictures, I told her to keep the
babies pictures to herself. Than of course she acted like she wasn’t doing anything wrong,
but I SO busted her!! I just don’t get it, she doesn’t show up for 14 months and she has to
try to pull this right on the first visit back.

Our princess and the donor played with a balloon for a short time, but then it was time for
her to leave…..thank goodness!!

Next Post: The Questions – Coming Soon!

~NANA~

We had talked about how we hadn’t heard from the egg donor since December. And that she
hasn’t seen our little princess in well over a year.

We couldn’t believe it had been over 4 months. Well, low and behold, I got an email from her today.
I was in shock! She asked if she could come see our princess. She didn’t want to have to take us to
court and she has a right to see her. Seriously??

She knew from day 1, both her and my son no longer have any rights to our princess, but we
wanted them to still be a part of her life and come visit and 1 day do family functions together.
The family functions won’t happen any time soon because she still has a restraining order against my son.

Well, I emailed her back, of course, I had to take a deep breath and wait a few, because if I
would have sent it right away, it would not have been good. I told her I do NOT like to be threatened
with court and that we have NEVER stopped her or my son from seeing our princess. I went on to say
that I had sent her an email back in December before our princess’ birthday and said she could come
the week between Christmas and New Years, any day and any time and yet she never showed up or
came to see her.

Her reply was she thought we were busy so she didn’t come see her daughter. Really? You are going
to blame us? Nope, I don’t think so!!

So of course my reply was not very nice, not mean, but stern and I am not taking the blame for
someone else because they can’t be a parent.

Emails went back and forth, of course she says she doesn’t recall any of our conversations about
guardianship, she thought it was temporary. Really? We went over it and if she thought was
temporary, why has it already been 3 years? I told her we went over it along with our princess’ attorney.
We sat in our living room, talked about it over and over, our princess’ attorney explained everything
over and over again, asked them if they understood that that no longer had rights and that
my husband and I would make all the decisions, they were asked numerous times if they
had questions and if they understood. YEP, they did. They both signed the papers, then couldn’t
wait to get rid of the responsibility of being a parent. And she tells me she didn’t know this
was temporary…. seriously? Either she is “playing” me or she IS really dumb!! I can’t imagine
she is that smart, so it must be stupidity.

I told her I am not arguing, all the information is in the court papers, along with the report
from our princess’ attorney. If she doesn’t believe me, she can see for herself. AND obviously
the judge had plenty of evidence to make the decision to give us permanent legal guardianship
with no conditions to visitation. So if she is going to continue to be like this, we will take
visitation right away as we do not HAVE to let her see our princess.

I discussed it with our princess, if she thought she wanted to see the egg donor. It was up to
her. I didn’t want to make the decision without her. She said she really don’t care, either way.

I finally sent her an email saying if you have time to sit and email back and forth, then come
see your daughter now. She wasn’t sure she could do that, you know because she has
another kid to take care of…. god help him.

Next Post: “Is she coming to visit or not?”

~NANA~

The week prior to the recital, she was asking over and over again when her dance recital was. “is it today mama?” I would say, “no, 4 more days”. This happened the entire week. The day of the recital I left work early, picked our princess up from the sitters. She was so excited she could hardly contain herself.

I took her to the hair salon where she got her hair done. She sat very well the entire time. It turned out FABULOUS!!

We went out for lunch, had a little princess/mama time. She was tired, but couldn’t take a nap….. wouldn’t want to ruin that fancy hairdo.

After we got back home, we had a bit to wait before we needed to get dressed. All I heard was, “please mama, let me get my dance costume on”. Over and over again.

Finally, it was time to get dressed. She put her tights on, then her bright orange costume along with her dance shoes. Just looking at her brought tears to my eyes. She looked absolutely beautiful!!

We had to drive about 20 miles away for her recital. She was so tired from our afternoon of primping; she fell asleep on the way. We had to wake her up when we got there. It was very crowded; a lot of people were at the auditorium to see all these precious little girls dance.

We bought a beautiful bouquet of flowers for our princess for after the recital.

There was going to be 2 shows, we were going to watch the first show and help out back stage with the 2nd show.

It was almost time for the show to start; I think I was as nervous as she was. We all took our seats. Her class was the first to be on stage. The curtain opened, the music started and there were 9 little girls dancing to “Rockin’ Robbin”. Of course, I was an emotional wreck! I started to cry with joy! She was just beautiful and she remembered all of her dance steps. Several of the girls forgot their steps; however our princess was just dancing away. After the dance was done, they took a bow. After the bow, she looked up, we made eye contact. She smiled from ear to ear and started waving. All I could hear was “Hi Mom”. Then she had seen who all came to watch her. Of course it was my husband and I, my mom, dad, sister, brother-in-law, my niece, nephews, my daughter, future son-in-law, and our other grand-daughter. She was in shock! She had no clue we were all going to be there to watch her perform.

It had to be one of the most memorable moments in my life. We were all so proud of her. It was an OUTSTANDING performance by our princess.

After the show, we gave her the flowers. All she could say is, “when I grow up, I want to be on stage dancing, I was meant to be on stage”. At 4, she has already decided what she wants to do when she grows up.

She was exhausted by the end of the night. We left the auditorium, stopped to get something to eat, by that time; it was already 10:00pm. Needless to say, she fell asleep on the way home too.

We talked about the dance recital for days after. She just loved it!! Can’t wait for next year’s dance class to start!!

Next Post: Coming Soon!

~NANA~

We were looking for a program for our princess to be involved in. We weren’t sure if we wanted
soccer, gymnastics, dance, or something else. We asked our princess what she wanted to do.
She decided she really wanted to be a dancer. So we signed her up for the local dance club.
She has class once a week. We put on her little pink dance outfit, tights, and dance shoes. She
looked just beautiful!! She brought tears to my eyes.

The has her recital in the next few weeks. She has a beautiful orange costume. She tried it on and
had to wear it for pictures. She looked absolutely amazing. She sure knows how to bring me to
tears.

They are dancing to “Rockin’ Robin” for her routine. She LOVES that song and practices all the time.
I can’t wait to watch her and her class perform to that song. From what I can see so far while she
practices, it is going to be SUPER cute.

I have already booked an appointment to get her hair done…. she is going to be just beautiful!

I can’t wait for the recital. I will be the one in the crowd crying and snapping pictures like a mad
woman. I couldn’t be more proud to be that little girl’s “mama”. (grandma)

Next Post: Coming Soon!! Maybe even recital video.

~Nana~