Nana Tesch

From our family to yours, we would like to wish you a very
Merry Christmas and a prosperous New Year!!

We had a wonderful family Christmas, I will be making a post
later this week regarding our holidays.

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~NANA~

Chances…….

Some times life is about chances. Do you get the chance you need? Will someone give you a second or third chance? Do you deserve another chance? At what point do you stop giving chances?

We have given our son chance after chance. (as you can see if you have read my blog, especially from the beginning) Is there a time when you stop giving your kids chances? Even after ALL they have put you through?

We are at a point of is this his last chance? Or get “screwed” over again.

He has gotten numerous jobs; bet yet, didn’t start any of them. Spent more time pretending to have a job, rather than actually working a job.

He has mooched off of many people, including us as his parents. Also, numerous times, because he is our son, we let him come back home, because he “promised” he would change and get a job and change his life around. But we had heard that NUMEROUS times in the past. There has been promise after promise, but with no good outcome.

He has gone through girl after girl, mooching off them as well.

We thought when he went to Job Corp for 2 years and actually finished with his high school equivalency and multiple certifications in welding, that he would get a job and turn his life around.

Well, that was another pipe dream in our lives.

He finished his 2 years, then asked if he could stay with us a day or 2 while he job hunted, well, he didn’t job hunt, all he did was “pretend” to job hunt, just like old times.

We told him, we are NOT going through what we did in the past, but he was right back at it once again. We told him he could not stay with us anymore, we thought if he stayed a week or 2, got a job, maybe got his first paycheck, we could help him get an apartment along with all the furnishings, which we were going to give him, but that didn’t happen.

What a disappointment!! (again)

He has once again found a girl, which I will not pass judgment on, I do not know her, and so I can not say anything good or bad. I will not pre-judge someone that I do not know.

He actually decided to move out of Wisconsin, for this girl, to another state, to move in with her. Which, that is his choice, being that he is 23 years old, however, I feel bad, because even though he does not have custody of his daughter, our little princess, he chooses to move far away, rather than trying to have any kind of connection or relationship with her, which does make me sad. My husband and I really wanted both of her parents to be part of her life, but neither one has chosen to do that.

From what he tells me, she has 2 jobs, which I am sure she needs in order to support herself and him, and he is “looking” for a job. He always says he has gotten a job, but usually that’s just an interview, he tends to blow it out of proportion, and a true job never happens.

We just hope this time; he will actually get a job, make some money, and turn his life around. And be responsible for himself.

I just don’t think I can do this over and over again; we are at our wits end. Hopefully this WILL turn out and it’s what he needs to become someone and show us he truly can do it.

Time will tell…….

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~NANA~

We would like to wish our little princess a wonderful and happy 4th
birthday!!

I can’t even believe our princess is already 4 years old.

Where Does the time go?

Just seems like we were on our way to the hospital waiting for
her to arrive. We held that little girl in our arms and knew, we
were hooked. Yep, hook, line, and sinker.

At first, Papa was not all that into being a grandpa, but
not because she wasn’t beautiful, but because of the entire
situation, but I wanted no part of his negativity. I took
that beautiful bundle and put her right in Papa’s arms.
He wasn’t happy at first, but then, he held her in his arms,
started to unbundle her, and started to play with those
little toes. It was just then, she had him hooked.
He has been hooked ever since.

Our princess has lived with us since birth, we finally
received legal permanent guardianship 2 ½ years ago.
It has been just amazing having that little girl in
our lives. She has brought so much joy and happiness
to our lives.

We invited my daughter and my other granddaughter
over for pizza (princess’ choice) along with ice cream cake.

We opened presents while we were waiting for the
pizza to be delivered. She got colors, markers, coloring books,
stickers, tattoos, hair stuff, clothes, dolls, clothes, a
few parts to her doll house village. She was SO excited
about the entire day. We ate pizza and had ice cream
cake while the girls played. It was SO nice!!

Our princess didn’t want to go to bed that night because
she didn’t want her birthday to be over. The next day,
she asked when she was going to be 5. I told her not
for 365 more days, she was excited and we are on the count
down already to age 5.

Here’s to all the happiness this little girl has brought
into our lives!!

HAPPY 4TH BIRTHDAY PRINCESS!!

(Here are a few pics from the past and present)

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~NANA~

This past weekend, we went up north like we do so often.
The main reason for visiting our families up north this past
weekend is because my in-laws were celebrating their 50th
wedding anniversary. (Happy Anniversary Ma & Pa Tesch!!!)

We do not have snow yet where we live, however; up north,
there was about 2 inches of snow on the ground. On Friday night,
it snowed some more, so when we woke up Saturday morning,
there was about 4 or so inches on the ground. Our princess
asked so nicely if she could go play outside in the snow. Of
course, I said yes. I got her all dressed in her hot pink winter
coat, matching snow pants, mittens, and her hat. She looked
so cute!!

We went outside with my nephew to make a snow man and
make a snow fort. It was beautiful outside. It was actually 36
degrees and sunny! PERFECT snowman making weather!

We were outside for about an hour or so, got a snowman done
and a cute fort. I wasn’t invited in the fort, I was told it was
for “kids only”.

Our princess had such a GREAT time!!

We left to come back Sunday, after it had snowed another
few inches. The snow was hanging on the trees. Thank
goodness the roads were in good shape. It was beautiful
driving.

When we got back home, we had NO snow at all. Our
princess asked to go back up north so she could play
in the snow again. She was upset we wouldn’t drive 2 hours
back up north to play in the snow.

I hope you enjoy your “winter wonderland!!”

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~Nana~

Seriously! Some people have nerve! For some odd reason,
it’s MY fault that the egg donor doesn’t come to see our
little princess.

Originally, after we obtained permanent legal guardianship,
I had to insist on her coming to see our princess. We had
agreed on Tuesdays to come visit. (after she originally
picked Wednesday’s, then had to change because of
“date night”, which was more important than coming to see
her daughter.

That happened for a while, than she would miss some visits,
then off and on for the first 2 years. She had many
excuses why she couldn’t come. We were also more
than flexible to change the day when she was going to
school, we changed the day when she got a job, or
whenever she asked to change.

Than come February 2011, she just didn’t show up anymore.
No calls, no emails, no nothing. We had heard she had her
baby in mid-March, but no communication from her directly.
Not until late March did we get an email saying she had
her baby and she would let me know when she could
come see our princess.

From there, we received excuse after excuse that she
couldn’t come. I heard she did go back to work for a
short time, then got fired. She sat home for days,
weeks, and months, but couldn’t find the time to come
visit our princess.

I might receive an email every 2 months or so asking why
we won’t let her see her daughter. I keep telling her that
we need to know which dates work for her as our schedule
is busy. And yet, we never receive dates that work for her.
And again, it’s all my fault she can’t see our princess.

Now she tells us she has a full time job and goes to school
full time, so she can’t find time to come visit. But sends me
nasty emails saying I am trying to keep her daughter away
from her. SERIOUSLY!!

Than she tries to say that my son is living with us that’s why
I won’t let her come visit. I told her I refuse to talk to her about
my son since she has a restraining order against my son,
so I can’t discuss him with her.

She can only come either every other weekend or the
opposite Friday. We are very busy on weekends and
I don’t think we should have to give up our busy weekends
because she couldn’t say she wanted Tuesday’s off to
come see her daughter. I would be more than flexible
on week days, when we can, but weekends just DO NOT
work for us. As it is, we have a busy schedule during
the week as well do to classes after work, let alone
give up our busy weekends.

I am once again waiting for dates that work for her to
come visit. NOT holding my breath on those dates.
It’s been over 9 months, can’t imagine she is getting
on those dates too quick. Which is my fault for some
odd reason.

We do not have to let her see our princess at all, there is no
court ordered visitation, but we think it’s the right thing to
do is to let our princess see her birth mother. But if all we do
is get blamed and harassed about it, all further communication
can be through our attorney.

I am over going through all of this crap when all we ever
wanted is to do what was in our princess’ best interest.

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~NANA~