ABOUT This blog is about my personal path as a grandparent obtaining legal guardianship and raising our grandchild. The path has been a struggle, but well worth it. She is our pride & joy!!!
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Time and time again, we get a phone call, email, or sometimes NOTHING. The egg donor always has an excuse not to show up to see her own daughter. Some of the excuses……
She has no gas or no gas money. (how would she ever expect to raise a child if she doesn’t even have enough money for gas??)
She got called into work. (she WAS working for a temp service, they typically don’t call people in. I had found out that she had gotten fired several weeks ago, so she isn’t fooling ANYONE)
She had to rush her grandmother to the ER. ( seen her driving around town, didn’t take her grandmother to the ER)
She had to go to a funeral. (not sure if that one is true or not)
She had a family emergency. (but low and behold, no mention of it… I am SURE that was a lie)
She got a job. (that’s been a lie numerous times)
She has to take her dad to the doctor or hospital. (that’s been a lie more often then not)
She lost track of time. (just another one of her many excuses)
She has sent me emails asking when she can have our little princess either over night or for the weekend. I don’t respond. She only wants my answer, which is NO, in writing. Well, I won’t put that in writing because she only wants to try to use it against me. She wants to use it as ammunition against me. I have told her on more than 1 occasion, that legally I don’t have to let her see her at all. She’s lucky I give her any visitation.
She was trying to pump information on face book from my sister-in-law. She would send her messages asking how our little princess is since she doesn’t get to see her. She would ask if she seen her lately because we keep our little princess away from her. I got fed up and asked my sister-in-law to delete her and block her from face book. That is nerve!! To try to get information, not that there is any, from my family. That is nerve!!!
Well, little does she know, I also have a way to keep tabs on her. Thing is, she is so dumb, she doesn’t even know. I won’t divulge my way, not sure that I am supposed to be doing that, but if she is dumb enough to fall for it, than so be it. (some day I will share that little tidbit)
She has asked that she has our little princess for her birthday. (the egg donor’s bday) She doesn’t want her any other time, why would she want her for her bday? She said that she was having a “pre-birthday” party at a hotel with friends. Why would you take a 2 year old to a hotel for a party with your friends. Obviously she has NO idea what it’s like to raise a child or what is appropriate to do with a child. She is OUT of her mind if she thinks I will EVER let her take our little princess out of my house. ALL of her visits are in my house, she is NOT allowed to take her out of our site…. EVER!!
The latest news that we received, or “someone” found out, that the egg donor is once again expecting a child. Yep, can you even believe it??? She can’t even raise the child she already has. Not to mention she “got rid of” the last one she had. Some people are SO stupid!! I do feel sorry for that child, they can’t help who there parents are. An egg donor again. Just because you CAN reproduce, doesn’t mean you should. SERIOUSLY!!
I just hope that she concentrates more on this new child and leaves our little princess and us alone.
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Recipe: Breakfast Quiche:
Pre-made Pie crust- par bake 15 minutes- poke holes in –
8 eggs
½c of ½ & ½
½ cup sour cream
8 oz shredded cheese- swiss, or provolone, or cojack.
Mix all together with any toppings- bacon, ham, sausage, onions, aspargas, mushrooms, shredded zucchini, or whatever other breakfast items you want.
Bake 35-40 minutes or until set.
ENJOY!!
My husband and I would like to congratulate our daughter and her boyfriend on there brand new baby girl! She was born Sunday at 2:58pm. She is 8 pounds and 1 oz, 19 1/2 inches long. She has lots of medium brown hair – She is BEAUTIFUL!! We are so proud of both of you!! You will be awesome parents.
Saturday the 24th, I woke up at 6:00, not sure why so early on a Saturday, but I was up. I cleaned in the morning. My husband and I shopped in the afternoon. When we got home, we through the steaks on the grill, we invited our daughter and her boyfriend for steaks. After supper my daughter was kind of squirmy, I asked her what was wrong, she said she thought she was in labor. Well, we were timing and yep, she was in labor. The contractions were 3-6 minutes apart. We got to the hospital around 11:30 that night. She was in labor throughout the early hours of Sunday morning. She would make some progress on dialating, then she would stall out once she got some pain meds. She finally got an epidural, that really stalled the labor.
She finally was dialated to 10, after 16 1/2 hours, she was able to push. She pushed for 1 1/2 hours, nothing. Her doctor came in and told her if she wanted to try to keep pushing, she could, otherwise he was okay with doing a csection. So she did choose to have a csection. The doctor came in after surgery and said she could have pushed for 2 days, she was NOT delivering that little girl. She was face up and wedged just so, there was no way she was going to be able to push her out, so it was a great decision to go ahead with the csection.
She was born Sunday afternoon at 2:58pm. Her boyfriend wheeled the baby out of the operating room, he came out with a smile from ear to ear. What a proud daddy! She looks just like her daddy!!
We finally left the hospital at 7:30 that night. I was up for over 37 hours and was totally exhausted! I can’t imagine how my daughter felt. She was amazing!!! I couldn’t be more proud of both her and her boyfriend!!
She is my 2nd grandchild and loved very much!! Nana sure loves her little girls-
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Recipe: Peach Cobbler
3 large cans of sliced peaches- cut in 1/2
3 TBL flour
1 C sugar.
Mix and pour into 9×13 cake pan.
In another bowl mix, 1 1/2 cups flour, 2 sticks of butter- cut into small pats, 3/4 c oats, 1 cup brown sugar, and 1 TBL cinnamon- Mix all together- will be crumbly. Pour over peach mixture- Bake at 375 for 40-50 minutes-
Enjoy!!
~Nana~
Over the past 3 years, there has been so many lies. It’s so hard to keep track of all them. She can’t even keep track of all of her lies. The egg donor tell us that my son had stolen a bunch of stuff and try to pawn it off, come to find out, it was both of them. The egg donor told us when she moved out, she would only take her stuff, she didn’t want anything of ours. Well, low and behold, A LOT of my stuff was missing after she left. She even had the nerve to come to my house wearing my daughters jeans. If you are going to steal something from someone, don’t wear it in front of them. Seriously!!
In addition to clothes, my anniversary ring is missing, my digital camera, my portable DVD player, among other jewelery, and who knows whatever else.
She told us she had a job at a local pizza place… that was a lie. She told us her grandmother was in the emergency room, that was a lie, just another excuse so she didn’t have to come see her daughter. She told us she had a new job with benefits, turns out, she got the job thru a temp service and doesn’t have ANY benefits. She can’t even keep track of her own lies. What kind of mother makes up lies so she doesn’t have to come see her daughter? An egg donor, not a REAL mother!!
She told us that she was fed up with her dad, sister, brother, and grandmother, however sure as all heck, she is in cahoots with them on who to screw people and her daughter over and how to get something for free. Not sure how people live like that, but it sure takes all kinds of people.
She lies about being sick so she can go out with friends. And then she is dumb enough to post it on Face Book. If you are going to lie, don’t publish it so you can get caught in your lies. DUH!!
She has the nerve to show up late, if at all, for her weekly visits and make up some lie. But yet she is on Face Book. She can sit on the computer, but can’t make her weekly visits to see her own daughter. Seriously!!
She also lied numerous times in her court papers. Who does that? No one who has any morals, that’s for sure!
Must be hard going through life trying to keep track of all of her lies.
Numerous times she has to reschedule because she has no gas or no gas money. Which could be true, because she hardly works at all. If she was a true mother, she would try to come see her child, come hell or high water!!
She also keeps emailing me to see if she can get our little princess over night or for a weekend. I don’t respond to her in writing, that’s what she wants so she can try to use it against us. I would really like to respond that I don’t have to let her see our little princess at all, but we choose to as we think it’s the right thing. It’s not a right, it’s a privilige.
She asked for her on Easter, a christian holiday, but yet according to her Face Book page, she has no religion, “F GOD”. Who does that? No one in there right mind.
This is just a snippet of her lies. This is the type of person we have to deal with. I hope no one wonders why we did what we did for our little princess. We are only looking out for the best interest of our little princess, and it is truly in her best interest NOT to be with the egg donor.
~Nana~
Well Tuesday was divorce court. We found out Monday night, that the egg donor was willing to drop the custody portion of the divorce. From what we know, her lawyer told her that divorce court was not the place to hash out the custody, since it was already decided in a different court. That was a really good thing for us. Our lawyer didn’t even have to talk in court. It was a big win for us. On the other hand, she can still file in Probate Court, where the original guardianship was decided. If she does file, she would be liable for court charges, her attorney fees, and a possible guardian ad litem. Which could run a few thousand dollars. Not sure if she has that kind of money. I really don’t care how much it costs, we are willing to do whatever it takes in the best interest of our little princess.
She came to court in a TIGHT purple cotton shirt, you could see more than any one person would want to see of her. DISGUSTING!! Black cotton pants that for some reason couldn’t cover her crack. Not sure why one would want to dress like that for court, but leave it to the egg donor, she did. She also brought her boyfriend to divorce court. Who does that? Brings there boyfriend to divorce court. This guy is atleast the 4th boyfriend since she moved out of my house 1 year ago, while still married to my kid.
Her attorney asked her basic questions, as they had everything settled. She asked the egg donor if there was any chance that she was pregnant, she answered no. Not sure if that’s true or not, but she sure looks like it. She asked if there was any chance that they could get back together, she said no. The judge asked the questions to my son, he asked him if there was any chance of them getting back together, his answer “aaaahhhh NO!” The look on his face was priceless!! I couldn’t help but laugh right out loud in court.
The judge granted the divorce. As we were leaving, he said he had one more thing to add, he said what an awesome job the grandparents are doing by taking on a huge responsibility of this grandchild, kudos to the grandparents. We did not expect that, it was very nice, but not necessary. We would do ANYTHING for that little girl. We just want what is in her best interest.
So we now have to just sit and wait to see if she will file in Probate court. There is no limit on the filing time. She can do it anytime within the next 15 1/2 years, which would be when our princess will be 18 years old. Our attorney said that if she does file, we would have to prove her unfit, which she said based on my journal, we wouldn’t have any trouble doing that.
We are not going to sit and dwell on whether she will file or not, we just want things to be as normal as possible for our little princess. We want to live our lives and enjoy our little princess. We will prepare for the worst, but hope for the best.
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~NANA~
There isn’t much to update, however I wanted to touch base…….. We do know that the egg donor does not yet have an attorney, despite given 2 extensions to obtain an attorney. If she can’t find an attorney after 9 weeks, she will NEVER find one.
Our court date is May 25th. We still have not been notified that she has an attorney, should prove interesting when we get there or when we get a call that she requested another extension.
My assumption is that she can’t afford an attorney, she had to “hook up” with someone who actually has a job and gets a pay check so he could pay for it. Not sure about that, but NO attorney is going to take a case if she can’t pay a retainer fee.
We continue to hear all kinds of excuses that she can’t come on her visitation day or has to come late or leave early. If she was ANY kind of mother, she would be here as much as I would let her. But instead, she makes all kinds of excuses not to come. And yet she is requesting for 50/50 custody. She can’t even make it 1 1/2 hours a week, how would she ever be able to handle 50/50 custody??
Our son has obtained his GED, he has also passed the first portion of his high school diploma, while he continues to get his certification in welding. We hope he continues this upward path in his life. Way to go kiddo!!
We continue to focus on our little princess and her best interests. She is an amazing little girl and continues to be the apple of our eye.
Just a side note….. my husband and I are expecting our 2nd grandchild, she is due on August 2nd. SO PROUD TO BE A GRANDMOTHER!!
Next Post: Results from upcoming court date- Coming May 26th.
~NANA~
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