Seriously! Some people have nerve! For some odd reason,
it’s MY fault that the egg donor doesn’t come to see our
little princess.
Originally, after we obtained permanent legal guardianship,
I had to insist on her coming to see our princess. We had
agreed on Tuesdays to come visit. (after she originally
picked Wednesday’s, then had to change because of
“date night”, which was more important than coming to see
her daughter.
That happened for a while, than she would miss some visits,
then off and on for the first 2 years. She had many
excuses why she couldn’t come. We were also more
than flexible to change the day when she was going to
school, we changed the day when she got a job, or
whenever she asked to change.
Than come February 2011, she just didn’t show up anymore.
No calls, no emails, no nothing. We had heard she had her
baby in mid-March, but no communication from her directly.
Not until late March did we get an email saying she had
her baby and she would let me know when she could
come see our princess.
From there, we received excuse after excuse that she
couldn’t come. I heard she did go back to work for a
short time, then got fired. She sat home for days,
weeks, and months, but couldn’t find the time to come
visit our princess.
I might receive an email every 2 months or so asking why
we won’t let her see her daughter. I keep telling her that
we need to know which dates work for her as our schedule
is busy. And yet, we never receive dates that work for her.
And again, it’s all my fault she can’t see our princess.
Now she tells us she has a full time job and goes to school
full time, so she can’t find time to come visit. But sends me
nasty emails saying I am trying to keep her daughter away
from her. SERIOUSLY!!
Than she tries to say that my son is living with us that’s why
I won’t let her come visit. I told her I refuse to talk to her about
my son since she has a restraining order against my son,
so I can’t discuss him with her.
She can only come either every other weekend or the
opposite Friday. We are very busy on weekends and
I don’t think we should have to give up our busy weekends
because she couldn’t say she wanted Tuesday’s off to
come see her daughter. I would be more than flexible
on week days, when we can, but weekends just DO NOT
work for us. As it is, we have a busy schedule during
the week as well do to classes after work, let alone
give up our busy weekends.
I am once again waiting for dates that work for her to
come visit. NOT holding my breath on those dates.
It’s been over 9 months, can’t imagine she is getting
on those dates too quick. Which is my fault for some
odd reason.
We do not have to let her see our princess at all, there is no
court ordered visitation, but we think it’s the right thing to
do is to let our princess see her birth mother. But if all we do
is get blamed and harassed about it, all further communication
can be through our attorney.
I am over going through all of this crap when all we ever
wanted is to do what was in our princess’ best interest.
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