Chances

Chances…….

Some times life is about chances. Do you get the chance you need? Will someone give you a second or third chance? Do you deserve another chance? At what point do you stop giving chances?

We have given our son chance after chance. (as you can see if you have read my blog, especially from the beginning) Is there a time when you stop giving your kids chances? Even after ALL they have put you through?

We are at a point of is this his last chance? Or get “screwed” over again.

He has gotten numerous jobs; bet yet, didn’t start any of them. Spent more time pretending to have a job, rather than actually working a job.

He has mooched off of many people, including us as his parents. Also, numerous times, because he is our son, we let him come back home, because he “promised” he would change and get a job and change his life around. But we had heard that NUMEROUS times in the past. There has been promise after promise, but with no good outcome.

He has gone through girl after girl, mooching off them as well.

We thought when he went to Job Corp for 2 years and actually finished with his high school equivalency and multiple certifications in welding, that he would get a job and turn his life around.

Well, that was another pipe dream in our lives.

He finished his 2 years, then asked if he could stay with us a day or 2 while he job hunted, well, he didn’t job hunt, all he did was “pretend” to job hunt, just like old times.

We told him, we are NOT going through what we did in the past, but he was right back at it once again. We told him he could not stay with us anymore, we thought if he stayed a week or 2, got a job, maybe got his first paycheck, we could help him get an apartment along with all the furnishings, which we were going to give him, but that didn’t happen.

What a disappointment!! (again)

He has once again found a girl, which I will not pass judgment on, I do not know her, and so I can not say anything good or bad. I will not pre-judge someone that I do not know.

He actually decided to move out of Wisconsin, for this girl, to another state, to move in with her. Which, that is his choice, being that he is 23 years old, however, I feel bad, because even though he does not have custody of his daughter, our little princess, he chooses to move far away, rather than trying to have any kind of connection or relationship with her, which does make me sad. My husband and I really wanted both of her parents to be part of her life, but neither one has chosen to do that.

From what he tells me, she has 2 jobs, which I am sure she needs in order to support herself and him, and he is “looking” for a job. He always says he has gotten a job, but usually that’s just an interview, he tends to blow it out of proportion, and a true job never happens.

We just hope this time; he will actually get a job, make some money, and turn his life around. And be responsible for himself.

I just don’t think I can do this over and over again; we are at our wits end. Hopefully this WILL turn out and it’s what he needs to become someone and show us he truly can do it.

Time will tell…….

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